The reality is that if you take on too many responsibilities and say ‘yes’ to everything that comes your direction, you will become overwhelmed and likely end up disappointing a lot of people along the way. Its The art of saying ‘No’. It sounds easy but it is something that has taken a lot of time for me to understand. The fact is, that bearing through a moment of disappointment for saying ‘No’ is way better than dealing with the longterm stress of getting out of an dinner plan, concocting a story about why you can’t chair a luncheon or breaking brunch plans with your girlfriends. Putting yourself and your priorities first will make for a more peaceful you.
Here are a few tips to make saying no a little easier
1. Stop being so nice
That’s the thing about nice people, they tend to get taken advantage of. You need to stand your ground and mean it. If you keep saying yes, people will continue to monopolize your time again and again.
2. Saying YES to you
Disappointing people is not easy, but you have to look at it like you are saying NO to them but YES to you. Being selfish is a must and it is imperative to take care of your own life before you can help others.
3. Give another option
A good way to soften the blow of a NO, is to give them another option along with your response. “I can’t today, but Tess may be able to help you with your project” or “I have a lot going on this week, can we touch base again about it next week?” This way you are being firm in your decision while, not shutting them down completely.
4. Time is money
I could not agree more with this statement from the fashion guru Tom Ford. Time is the only thing you cannot buy, and you cannot make up for. Once it is gone it is gone. Know what your priorities are and stick to them. There is no sense in letting people suck up all of your time and energy, when it could be used to take care of all those things you have been neglecting.
5. Stop Explaining
Not everything needs an explanation. The more you try to explain something the more weak your argument becomes. Just say no, and move on
YES. yes. yes. Everyone is obsessed about Kylie Jenner’s lips. Are they real? Are they fake? How could she start plastic surgery at such a young age? Is it just part of her maturing process? All of these questions come to mind, but nonetheless, people are talking. Why? Well for one it looks fantastic.
Kylie is the youngest of the Kardashian Klan, but in my eyes, by far the most badass. Yes I said it. She brings cool girls status to the next level. Oh how I wish I was 17 again. (well maybe not)
Regardless of the questionable surgery, she has been sporting some beautiful matte lipstick shades that evoke a spirit of the 90’s. Makes me want to pull out my MAC Stone lipliner. Sure she may have had injections, but here’s my trick for getting the same look, with a lot less pain.
First and foremost you must prep your lips! Make sure you are hydrated, and give your lips a good exfoliation. For a quick at home lip scrub, just take some olive oil and sugar and scrub generously, to reveal soft smooth hydrated lips.
- I used MAC Spice lip pencil to line the lips. If you don’t have Spice, pick a medium shade liner with a mauve, brown or rose base. (Kylie uses MAC lipliner in Whirl often) This is the most important part, as you will have to slightly overdraw the lips. nothing crazy or clownlike, just outside your natural lip line. Also make sure you round out the edges at your cupids bow and do not make them too sharp or pointy. Color in all the corners, and leave the middle open.
- Lipstick choice is imperative. Kylie uses a matte finish. There are several lipsticks you could use to achieve the look, but my favorite is MAC Taupe, or Buxom lip foundation in Undressed.
- Finish the look by highlighting just above your cupids bow to make the top lip look extra plump. The light reflects, and your lips will instantly look fuller! You can use a shimmery nude eyeshadow, or a cream highlighter.
Voila! A plush pout Kylie would be jealous of, sans injectables.
In a nod to the resurgence of all things 90’s, I present to you the latest fashion editorial I had the privilege to do makeup and hair for, IN BLOOM. Shot with model Paige Tiziani, and Photographer Orlando Behar in Little Rock, this editorial was a blast to be a part of.
Being a teen in the 90’s myself, I was delighted to see the essentials like Matte brown lipsticks, sunflower prints, crop tops, and platform sneakers come back into style. Although I wouldn’t necessarily add those items into my personal wardrobe, I do love to see the essence of the decade mixed in with high fashion. This shoot had that exact feel. It was a nice blend of sophisticated dark florals, slept in hair, beanies, and dark smudgy eyes.
I can only wish I looked this cool traipsing through the woods.
Here is an editorial I did with four beautiful models in the wilderness. Editorials are some of the most rewarding projects because you get a chance to be creative and collaborate with other talented artists and turn it into something visually stunning. This was hands down one of my most favorite shoots.
Natural Simplicity Editorial
Published in Awaken Magazine
Creative Direction: Della Belliza e Moda
Models: Darryl Sposato @ AB FAB
Marlene Garcia Turner @ AB FAB
Angee Killian Huntley @ AB FAB
Laura Kirkpatrick @ AB FAB ( America’s Next Top Model Cycle 13 )
Hair: Myrna Ortiz Garcia
Makeup: Eri Vincent
Makeup Assistant: Elina Bolam
I loved the concept of this editorial story and how different it was. An elegant, beautiful woman, mourning the loss of a loved one, dressed in Haute Couture. This was probably the first time I have ever shot in a graveyard, and also the first time i have ever ridden in an Classic SS Convertible Chevelle.
Photographer: Orlando Behar
Model: Jocelyn Nickel
Hair and Makeup: Eri Vincent Makeup
Stylist: Mina Behar